How to Avoid Conflict with Friends and Family, or Anyone

Genesis 13:8. Abraham in Bible provides a great example of how to avoid conflict when dealing with friends and family. In Genesis 13 Abram and Lot had left Egypt and they had settled between Bethel and Hai. After a while, strife developed between Abram's herdsmen and Lot's herdsmen because there was not enough land to support both herds of cattle. When Abram became aware of the strife, he immediately addressed this issue with Lot to avoid anymore conflict (Genesis 13:8, “And Abram said unto Lot, Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren.”).

In Genesis 13:9 Abram tells Lot “Is not the whole land before thee? separate thyself, I pray thee, from me: if thou wilt take the left hand, then I will go to the right; or if thou depart to the right hand, then I will go to the left.” The manner that Abram presented his plan and the plan itself stopped strife immediately and avoided strife in the future. First his plan came up with a reasonable method for Abram and Lot to end the strife (They would spread out their herds). Second, his plan came up with two options for both Abram and Lot that he thought would be satisfactory to either one of them (one goes to the left, the other one goes to the right). Third, and most importantly, Abram let Lot choose between the two options. This is a wonderful way to avoid conflict: have one party divide the object of contention into two satisfactory options, and then let the other party choose which option.

GENESIS 13 BIBLE SCRIPTURE Genesis 13:8, “And Abram said unto Lot, Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren.”