Coping With, Surviving, and Forgiving Adultery

Bible Summary. The Bible provides ample guidance with how we should cope when our spouse commits adultery. Adultery is one of the few things that justifies divorce in the New Testament. Christians can divorce because of adultery, but it should be a last resort. According to the Bible another option is to separate for a season in the hope that the separation will heal the relationship. Also, marriage partners should consider ministerial counseling to help seek God’s direction when marriage relationships are strained. A marriage partner must also remember that the adulterous partner does not really understand how much adultery affects the marriage and the family. Many adulterers will truly repent after committing adultery. The Bible tells us that we should forgive someone who repents of their sin just as God has forgiven all of us. See below for Biblical advice and scriptures on coping with adultery.

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Coping With Adultery – A Last Alternative Is To Divorce.

According to the Bible divorce is an option if your marriage partner commits adultery. At the same time divorce should be the last resort in a marriage, especially if the adulterer repents to God of their wrongdoings. Matthew 5:32 provides advice on adultery and divorce.

Matthew 5:32, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

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Coping With Adultery – Separation and Reconciliation.

Another option in coping with adultery is to separate. In this case separation from your spouse for a season may heal the relationship. 1st Corinthians 7:11 provides advice on marriage separation and reconciliation.

1st Corinthians 7:11, “But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.”

Seek Counsel for Sins Like Adultery.

As adultery creates so much confusion in marriage relationships, a person should seek God’s direction and receive ministerial counseling to find out what God should have for them to do. Proverbs 19:20 provides advice on counseling.

Proverbs 19:20, “Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.”

Coping With Adultery – They Do Not Know What They Do.

One thing for you to remember when coping with adultery, is to realize that the adulterous marriage partner does not understand the full consequences of their actions. If they did, they would not have been tempted to commit adultery. Proverbs 6:32 advises us on the ignorance of adultery.

Proverbs 6:32, “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.”


For With Repentance Comes Forgiveness.

One of the hardest things in coping with adultery is to actually forgive the marriage partner that has committed the adulterous act. The Bible tells us that if someone repents, we are suppose to forgive them. Luke 17:4 advises on situations of repentance and forgiveness.

Luke 17:4, “And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.”

Forgive as God Forgives.

Jesus forgives all of us that repents of their sin. God expects us to forgive people as He forgave us. 2nd Corinthians 2:10 advises us to forgive sinners as God has forgiven us.

2nd Corinthians 2:10, “To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ;”